The Biology of Forgiveness
- Immersion
- Aug 4, 2020
- 2 min read
Would it shock you if I said that there is a link between cancer and un-forgiveness? How about any other illness? Now, if we could only learn how to forgive, right? If there really is a link between cancer and un-forgiveness, you're saying, right now, then just teach me how to forgive and we'll call it a day. Sign on the dotted line, follow the yellow brick road, and set the thrusters to warp speed. But Scotty says hold up a minute and you now want now to know why. The fact is it isn't that easy, and you're thought about it a great deal over the past years or so. If life could be successfully navigated by a road map of simple steps to success, we would all die old, happy, wealthy, and loved. We all know that life doesn't worked that way.
I am not going to give you a series of steps that will teach you how to forgive. Instead, I will help you uncover key insights that will lead you to forgiveness. The process of gaining insights instead of following steps is one that I like to think of as emotional or spiritual tirtration.
Titration requires extreme precision in measurement. For example, when two atoms of hydrogen bond with one atom of oxygen, suddenly an entirely new substance is created: water. The process of adding the precise amount of hydrogen with the precise amount of oxygen is called titration. The moment when the precise combination of hydrogen and oxygen become water is technically, called the equivalence point.
Forgiveness involves a process whereby bits of information are gradually added to other bits of information. At some point, we reach an emotional equivalence point-an emotional release that is often described as "a felling of lightness."
Everyone seems to have a different equivalence point. The "right mix" of information varies from person to person. In the end, we may never know which of the many insights I share will trigger the ability to forgive. There's simply no way of knowing, in advance, exactly which insights are needed; so I will share a wide array of information, along this series hoping that you will discover what you need to know and that you will stumble across (or into) the truth that will set you free.
Some people need a teaspoon of information; others need a cup or a gallon. The only thing certain about the process of titration is the result. With forgiveness, the result is a heart mysteriously, and often unexpectedly, unburdened of anger and hatred.
Un-forgiveness is spiritually cancerous to the human soul. Forgiveness, with its release of anger and hatred, is sometimes experienced spontaneously and is not less than a miracle.
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